Therapy can change the world. Scratch that … good therapy can change the world.
At its base level, therapy is concerned with two things. The first concern is that every client knows, to their very core, that she (or he) is a worthwhile human being. This isn’t that fluffy, everybody gets a medal, self-esteem crap.
I’m talking about the type of grounded evaluation that only comes from having taken an honest look at your successes and failures in life. Even though there is brokenness from the things done to you and the things you’ve done to others, there is a deep dignity that cannot be taken away.
The second concern of therapy is dealing with the brokenness. All wounds are not physical, and not all wounds cause lasting problems. The warning signs, the way you know you need help, are:
- You are stuck and can’t keep moving in your own life.
- You are stuck in a pattern of hurting others either physically or emotionally.
The real work of therapy is taking an honest look at the brokenness and holding it in tension with the dignity. We like to have things clear cut, black and white. Either things are completely broken or completely beautiful.
While it feels safe to put things in these boxes, it’s what keeps us stuck. The only way forward is to give the appropriate weight to the brokenness and take hold of your ability to try something different than you have before.
How does therapy change the world?
A person or couple begins to flourish because they have a deep sense of their own dignity and have begun to deal honestly with the brokenness in their lives. On the one hand, they don’t have to pretend the brokenness isn’t there, or on the other let it take over.
I hope you’ve met someone who has done this kind of work. It feels like you are on holy ground. It can feel unnerving, because they care about you, don’t have to compete, and don’t want to take anything from you. They’ve dealt with their own brokenness so that it doesn’t keep them from doing good – and it doesn’t seep out onto those around them.
Imagine what it would be like if more people than not were grounded like this. I’d be out of a job. Sadly, that’s not the case.
This piece may not apply to you. If that’s the case, feel free to pass it by. My path into these realms has led through the world of Christianity. That faith and the practices that go along with it have helped me immensely along the way.
I’ve also been wounded deeply by Christians, some of them well-meaning and others not so much. I work with some people who are open to Christianity, some people who aren’t, and others who are unsure. In any case, some of the deepest wounds I’ve seen as a therapist have been given in the name of Christianity. If that’s your story, you don’t have to clean it up to do therapy with me.
What do you think?
Is this a journey you’d like to begin? Are you tired of the brokenness blocking out the beauty of life? If so, I’d like to walk with you. Here are a few different ways to get in touch:
- Call me at 970-825-4280.
- Book your consultation here. Choose either Office or Phone consultation and a 30-minute time slot.
- Fill out the contact form on this page.